“Madam cut your hand! cut your hand!” the security guard at my gym said as I pulled into a tight parking spot, usually I rely on my mirrors and adjust them until I have enough visibility but in Lagos, nobody has time for all that. If you take too long parking, you’ll probably get honked or yelled at, that is if the yelling doesn’t unnerve you into hitting something (Sorry to new drivers).
It has been a hot minute since I wrote to you, and for that - I apologize. Life has been doing what it does but I hope this meets you well. I’m here for some gossip, so I hope you made tea! Remember when I promised to get a boyfriend in a week or so? I agreed to a disastrous date with an old friend who had been on my radar for a while.
First off, he was thoughtful with the planning and communication leading up to the date, but the reality didn’t match up to my expectations. He didn’t make it easy with the rules he was setting either (why do you have regulations when I haven’t told you I like you yet?). A week later, there was a conversation about our differences and big man said “No hard feelings” but he sent a 5-minute voice note full of hard feelings.
àwa ni yẹn 🎵🎵🎵. I took a break from writing this for about 2days that was the song that brought me back. Clearly not my best friend dragging me on our groupchat.
Unfortunately, men around the world spent the past two weeks telling women how they’re expected to be while defrauding the same women emotionally and financially (iykyk). I’m irritated at the fact that the same in all these still rest with my babes, I need more women to break the abusive relationship they have with shame when dealing with the patriarchy. Why is a narcissistic murderer getting sympathy for killing his girlfriend during a fight? Or is it the ones that use their humble background as the basis for making women pay for their lifestyle? Or the one whose dad confirmed his deadbeat dad status on Twitter? People are exhausting.
I recently started something I’ve been putting off for a long time, I'm still nervous and unsure about it but we do things scared over here 💪🏾💪🏾. Of the 18 books I planned to read this year, I just finished the deepest one yet. Bell Hooks was a genius! I wish I read All about Love as a teenager, this book took me the longest time to read but I’m grateful for the knowledge however long it took me to find it. By reading and practising the lessons from the book, I have become a gentler person with firmer boundaries. The book sent me back to church you guys! Even if I’m still attending for the community, it’s still a step in the right direction for me.
To close this out, let me remind Nigerians that plantain is back in seasonnnnnn! I’m aware it is now expensive but you deserve to spark joy this weekend so make some Kelewele with this recipe I found online.
For my women (you guys are my favourite beings), here are two songs from Kah-Lo that uplifted me this week:
Awa ni - The Knocks, Kah-Lo
I’ve also been watching:
I will try to be more consistent with this but you must know that my life’s a bit chaotic these days so my creativity suffers. See y’all next week!
It's how I always read these words in your voice.😂 It makes it more entertaining.
We've sure missed you and are glad to have you back! Please keep ‘em coming (whenever you can). 🤗 😘