This will be a short one for the women, my women. Do you know how sometimes you’re making a wrong decision or settling for something (or someone) because it’s a placeholder for what you really want?
Yeah, that could be really bad for you. This week, two situations tested my resolve on what I considered “non-negotiables”. How? They forced me to be honest with my thoughts and say those albeit foolish thoughts out loud. One was a change I didn’t plan for at the office, this stressed me so much on the first day. I got defensive and tried to resist the change until I got home and discussed how the change really made me feel and how it could affect my work. Articulating this without necessarily getting advice from my friend helped me separate facts from feelings. I went in the next day ready to give that situation my best while ignoring the noise, it’s gotten much better now.
The second situation was even more personal and chaotic (God safe us) this had something to do with a potentially disastrous sneaky link. Until I fully embraced how badly the link could affect my friendship, it seemed exciting but to what end?
I think honesty is best practised personally before you extend that expectation to others. Did you really like that gift or you don’t want to hurt the giver’s feelings? Is one call every 3 days enough communication from your partner? Do you really dislike PDA or you’re playing along so you don’t seem clingy to the man you’re seeing? Is your job fulfilling or the money helps you live well?
There are many questions we ask ourselves when we make decisions, how often do we answer them honestly? I may or may not have another letter for you this weekend.
Stay jiggy,
xx
We want another letter 😩😩😩.
E be things ... the questions and the answers are reality checks.