I just let it slip to my dad that I was setting my 2025 goals… Guess what he thinks should be at the top of my list?
In my history of goal-setting which started in 2017, 2024 has been the least-achieving year. Given that I worked the hardest this year, I’m quite shocked and disappointed that I barely went halfway through my personal development goals. how did this happen? I’ll explain in the next few paragraphs.
So here’s the thing about setting goals, they’re supposed to be a guide to get you ahead but you need to track them to be on top of it. I never did that this year because of fear, things kept coming up and I kept pushing my goal check-in timelines now it’s the 29th of December and I barely got 8 goals of 19 done. Barely wrote, prayed more but significantly less than I’d have liked, connected less, gave less, had less peace, worried more and generally lacked consistency with the things I set out to do for myself. Shall I also get into how horrible the economy became and how that affected decisions made by people in general? 2024 was quite a sucky year.
As an ambitious woman, my pride and joy rely on my ability to do hard things successfully but that only shined through at work this year. In my personal life, so many things just did not get done. That’s what I mean when I say Much ado about nothing. Applying yourself harder to endeavours without personal fulfilment would leave you empty and possibly frustrated with life. In 2025, that needs to change. A 180-degree move sounds like the change I need but given the work ahead and the relationships I’d like to nurture, a drastic change seems unlikely in the coming year.
Gratitude regardless…
How many blessings could I count this year, not enough. 2024 was my year of disguised blessings, stronger boundaries and separation. 10 trips, 3 new experiences, many adventures, better friendship bonds, increase on every side and I’m generally more confident and assured. The missed opportunities were a bit crazy though.
I’ll expand a bit more on friendships because this year I experienced quite a number of random acts of kindness that I ordinarily talked myself out of receiving this year. There were more than a few situations where a stranger extended a hand of friendship that resulted in an opportunity, access, gifts, joy and new experiences. I approached my relationships this year with more caution and confidence in my expectations this led me to beautiful souls who met me exactly where I was and gently, kindly and firmly held space for me when needed. This year I experienced separation from the relationships I blindly held on to because of the sunk cost fallacy they hurt but I became better for it. Shall I also mention that this was my pettiest year ever? For every underhanded compliment, outright insult and dishonest utterance I reciprocated in equally caustic jokes, public awkwardness and strongly worded dissent. People don’t like that even when they are the original aggressors.
In 2025…
My dears, 2024 was an ok year but I have a few charges for 2025 that you might find useful especially if you’re a woman;
Stop talking yourself out of good things! If someone offers help, take it, if they show genuine interest, allow yourself to enjoy the ride.
People know exactly what they are doing, rely on the information they’ve provided and stop filling in gaps on their behalf.
Say no! The more you say it, the more comfortable you get with setting healthy boundaries for yourself
It’s okay to be the bad guy from time to time; it helps with receiving negative feedback.
Mistakes do not involve malice, learn to distinguish them from deliberate acts of unkindness.
Seek joy in everyday life and guard it jealously. Sometimes, your bubble is the haven you need to bloom.
Let people know when they hurt you… their reaction would either result in clarity or separation. Speak up!
Incompetent people are living excellent lives because they took a risk you dismissed your potential to succeed at. Read that again
2025 is your year as much as it is any other person’s. Carpe Diem every day!
This might have been a down year for achieving my written personal goals but I completed 42 of 24 books, took 10 amazing trips that helped me strengthen light bonds and cut some too, sought out adventure as much as I sought rest and loved myself all the way up as the good Lord intended. Completed the bible in less than 316 days despite broken streaks and cut every connection that negated self-love just as easily as I made them.
In 2025, I really hope people stop trying me because I’m no longer worried about being perceived as an a**hole. I have no interest in participating in humiliation rituals disguised as dating, emotional robbery disguised as friendship and exploitation disguised as employment. Come healed, moisturised and kind or kiss my ass! (no fr it’s a cute butt). I’m ringing in 2025 with a positively loud bang and I hope you do too.
Yours jiggy-ly
GC