Day by day I’m made aware of how my experiences in life are different because I’m a woman. From the police stopping me 2/3 times every time I leave my estate to them expecting “something for Christmas” after being bloody rude to me, or my dad’s acquaintances demanding an explanation for why I conduct myself the way I do in the 2 hours (max) they get to be in my presence to people generally having opinions founded or unfounded about how we live. Quite hilarious. But that’s not what we’re going to do here, it has been a very good year.
Yes! I know the blogs haven’t been regular with the writing and I make no promises about whether I will get back to it full-time but I’ll say this; It has been a year of growth in sharp spurts then rest (albeit forced by my body) because why am I sick at Christmas every two years? My dad asked me if deliverance would be required this time (context for the non-Nigerian readers, deliverance is like an exorcism but it’s sometimes used as a joke when things don’t seem to be working out). It has been quite an interesting year, I’ve learnt more about myself as it’s gone but nothing compares to the self-awareness I have come into this time. Yay! for doing big-girl things because it’s not that easy to do them (yes clap for yourself too, you don try).
Next year we’re focusing on better knowledge and certifications. I also want to prioritise what works for me in general I’ve been doing that but not exactly on the level I want, 2024 is the year for setting healthy boundaries and standing on business - not with men but with myself by doing the things I say I’m going to do. Maybe this is the year I’d learn how to float in the deep end of a pool or tell family members off for being nosy or this might also be the year to take travelling by the horns and just do it! one life!👌
This year I said I’d read 18 books because the 24 I set for 2022 was not met, I’m currently reading book 24 of 2023 and You would not believe how much has changed by virtue of my reading that many books. It has changed how I write, speak and engage with social commentary more importantly how I perceive the world in general. I’m so proud of myself and I hope you are too because let’s face it; if you’re here reading the blog after the hiatus, you’re probably a dedicated person in real life 🙌. P.s. I have 6 books lined up for next year and I can’t wait to get into them!
Considering how love and light this has been, you’re probably wondering why I said there’s not enough yeah? there isn’t! People just don’t care enough anymore, I don’t know if the pandemic exacerbated the unkindness that seems to permeate the world now but I hope for our own sake that we course-correct before we drive ourselves to extinction with unkindness. People are exhausted, going through a really rough time individually and collectively. For instance, there has been a massacre of sorts every month in Nigeria since October and the government has consistently refused to address it or in the most recent case disallowed traditional media from reporting it. There’s the lack of compassion expressed with the propaganda in the media about the Palestinian Genocide and the interesting alignment of the Nigerian oppressors with the international victims (helloooo! the call is coming from inside the house dumdum).
Final rant, there needs to be collective intervention amongst Nigerian men about the reason for the collective hate directed at women for simply existing. If your response is “not all men” I’m talking about you in particular because let’s be frank, why always you? Why does the report of abuse against spouses and children almost always have You as perpetrators? Why do you continue giving grace and platforming your fellow problematic colleagues when they show no remorse or growth from their behaviour? Do better!
In other news, I hear you people are doing 5-7 rounds of coitus this holiday with your partners…🫢 How?! Why?! (also, if you’re a stable young man with this energy, get in my DMs, I have a proposition for you). I’ll be back on the 31st with a wrap up of my favorite things this year (books, food, places, experiences, gifts music etc.) till then, care a little bit more about everything ok?
Stay jiggy
xx
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